How to raise your child to be a committed marriage partner
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“I’ve been married to my wife for nine years and we have three kids.
My children are 13, 11 and eight years old.
They’re all very happy.
I’d be doing it all over again if it wasn’t for all the stress of being a mum.
But I’d do it all again if I had a partner to love and to support me, I know that’s the best thing I could do.
I don’t want to go through all that again.”
Mum and dad of three My mum, Joanna, who has lived with her husband for over a decade, has her own experience of being raised by two people, including her ex husband.
She has lived as a single mother for more than 20 years and has never been able to have children of her own.
“I think I have two kids, I just don’t know how to say it yet.
They are not yet three years old yet,” she says.
“I was always very attached to my children and I knew that when they were older, I would be able to do whatever I wanted.
When my kids grow up and my husband is gone, I don´t think I can go back. “
It is the worst thing that could happen to me.
But if you can keep yourself together, you can.” “
There are lots of reasons why I can’t do it again.
But if you can keep yourself together, you can.”
The new parents-to-be were together for nine-and-a-half years but struggled to keep their marriages together, because of financial difficulties.
“I would have thought I could have been a stay-at-home mum,” Joanna says.
“My husband would be a very happy dad.
It was a lot more than that. “
But it wasn´t just about finances.
It was a lot more than that.
I didn’t feel I had the freedom to be me and be my own person.
“If I didn´t know I was a single mum, I’d never have done it. “
“When I was single, I thought it would be easier for me to have kids because my husband was very attached. “
I had to work really hard to get that balance right. “
When I was single, I thought it would be easier for me to have kids because my husband was very attached.
I was able to be more independent and more open with my family. “
We went through a lot together.
I was able to be more independent and more open with my family.
“It’s not just the financial aspect. “
We are all still trying to be the best parent we can be.” “
It’s not just the financial aspect.
We are all still trying to be the best parent we can be.”
Joanna, from Auckland, New Zealand, was the first to leave her husband of more than 30 years, but says she has never felt that her relationship with him was perfect.
She says she and her partner were separated for more then 10 years and they struggled to work out how they were going to be able do the things they loved together.
As the couple got older, they started dating, but eventually split after two years.
Joana says she never thought about leaving her husband, but she did start thinking about it in her late 20s.
My mother-in-law has lived alone for 25 years and says it was tough to find her husband and raise her children in her own home.
Her former partner has been her “biggest supporter” and her children’s best friend, she says, but was never able to get him to do the stuff she needed him to to do.
Mums-to, dads-to: ‘We can’t afford it’ “The most difficult thing is that I don`t think it’s financially sustainable.
If I had children, I could not live with my husband,” Joann says.
“I can’t work.
The mother-of-three has two young children and says the couple are not happy. “
The only way we can keep going is if I can get a partner.”
The mother-of-three has two young children and says the couple are not happy.
The financial issues are more complex, but they do mean that the two of them cannot share the financial burden together.
‘The only thing that I know for sure is that we can’t get it together’ Joann, who is now in her 50s, says she doesn’t think there is any way for her and her ex-husband to be financially independent, so they are considering leaving each other and moving to a new home together.
“We are in the process of trying to get it done.
We could move to a city or a different place and that would be great,” she said.
“I’ve been married to my wife for nine years and we have three kids.My children are 13, 11 and eight…